Those that know me best know I am a domestic violence survivour with PTSD. I fought long and hard to become the woman I am today. I like to think of myself as a strong and independent woman, however, my battle scars like to turn from silver back to bright pink from time to time, and this has happened to me last week
The “not all men” campaign that has been all over the news and social media platforms triggered me in a big way and it caused a PTSD flashback. It was something that happened a long time ago and was buried deep in my subconscious. Suddenly, I was back in that horrible situation I found myself in. I could see what I was wearing, how things smelled and even how the sunlight filtered through the curtains. I was in a blind panic as my body went hot, my mouth turned into a desert and my heart was sure to burst right through my chest.
The reason I wanted to share this with you all is that I want everyone to know if you have been triggered in any way by the media lately focusing on “not all men” and all this safety for women chat, you are NOT alone. Although it may cause you to relive your own horrible memory, just as it did with me, it is important to keep this issue alive and kicking for all it’s worth.
People are finally taking initiative to make sure women in Cumbria are safe and feel safe, and it’s about fucking time! Cumbria Police have started their “Call it out” campaign with a short survey you can take here https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/callitout. I did it and it only took about 5 minutes to complete. Everyone here in Cumbrian Lass headquarters has done the survey and our CL was even invited for a follow-up interview. We all feel good about doing our part to make Cumbria a safer place for women.
I would love to live in a world where I can jog at night with my headphones blaring at maximum…where I didn’t have to turn myself into Wolverine with my keys walking through a poorly lit parking lot in the dark..where I could walk myself home blind drunk at 2am…where I didn’t have to worry if I was showing just a little too much or worry if I am “asking for it” because I decided to go with the highest heels I have in my wardrobe. Sadly, we don’t live in a world like that; YET.
It is down to women like us, who have gone through the shit to tell those in power what they can do to help protect all women. Will we as women ever be free to do what we want when we want? I still think we are a looooong way away from that, but at least, the conversation has started. Let’s keep fighting ladies!!